What will I get out of coaching?Posted by in Benefits of Life Coaching
It’s a question I’m often asked. So, here are three things you can expect to get out of life coaching.
Self-awareness and self knowledge – life coaching helps us get to know ourselves better. To get back in touch with what makes us tick, what inspires us, as well as gaining an understanding of any limiting beliefs which might hold us back.
Regaining control of your life – often clients feel that they lack control in their life, that life is just happening to them. Coaching can help you get back into the driver’s seat, to take the wheel and to lead the way, to make informed choices driven by what you need and want. It can be hugely empowering to be reminded that we have 100% control over ourselves, what we say, how we behave, our thoughts and feelings and how we influence others with our our thoughts, communication and actions.
Knowing how to change what you want from life – most people know what they want from life, what they want to change, do differently, but how to get there is often unclear. I help clients identify what they want to change, what gets in the way of the change, and then look at what the first manageable steps could be. Then we review and track the progress and take further steps.
I’m always really keen to tell clients that coaching sessions are something to look forward to, something to enjoy – that life coaching is an important investment in yourself.
So let’s take a closer look at what this means in practice.
In getting to know yourself better and becoming more self-aware, you can make discoveries about yourself, such as what makes you tick, your passions as well as finding out about any dis-empowering and self limiting beliefs such as: ‘I’m not good enough, I’m too slow, I’m too shy, I’m fat, I’m lazy, I will never achieve anything, I’m a failure, I’m too scared etc.
The more you become aware of what’s going on with your thoughts, feelings and in your body, the more you get to know yourself. It’s a bit like getting to know someone who then becomes your friend. Through talking with each other you learn more and more about the other person.
When I work with clients, I ask questions, I listen carefully and attentively, I offer practical exercises and tools to help you become more aware of what’s going on in your life and how you experience what happens – your thoughts and feelings (both emotional and physical). In so doing, I can help you become more aware of yourself and of what might be getting in the way of any changes you want to make in your life. (Read my blog Getting to know me).
When you become more self-aware, you have more choice.
Knowing that you have choice can be life-changing. Often people feel that life is just happening to them, that they have little or no control over life. It’s a bit like sitting in the passenger’s seat rather than in the driver’s seat. Coaching can help you get back into the driver’s seat, to take the wheel and to lead the way. I help clients understand that they have 100% control over themselves, over what they say, their behaviour, their thoughts and feelings. It can be hugely empowering to be reminded of that. We can’t control others but we can influence them through our thoughts, communication and actions.
And of course, life does throw things at us, but most of the time we are in control of what’s happening in our day-to-day life.
And where most people know what they want from life, what they want to change, do differently, how to get there is often unclear. I work with clients to explore what gets in the way of doing what they really want to do. Often it’s fear of the unknown, or fear of exposing oneself, or fear of failure. Often it’s because people take steps forward that are too big and as a result feel overwhelmed and revert back to the old way of living. Changes is possible but gradual, slow. (Read more in my blog, Making choices).
It’s important to always check how we feel about the change we want to make.
Do we feel energised and confident or shy and scared? Is the first step just right, i.e. not too small and not too big? That’s important. If the first step towards change is too small, we are not motivated; if it’s too big, we can feel scared or overwhelmed and won’t do it either. I help clients identify what they want to change, what gets in the way of the change, and then look what the first manageable steps could be. Then we review and track the progress and take further steps.
Take a look at my case studies page to see what clients say about life coaching with me, such as Nikki, who got in touch because she was finding it difficult to decide whether or not to leave her job after six years.
“You challenged me to look more closely at my fears. And in doing so I realised that they were unfounded. So I’ve taken the leap and I’m open to all the exciting possibilities that lie ahead.” Nikki
and here’s another from a client who has just completed a coaching while walking course:
“I wanted to tell you again how appreciative I am of the time we spent together and how much you helped me start to understand what’s important and to start to learn to know myself. It’s been life changing and my outlook on my future has changed for the better.”
If you would like to find out more about coaching and my approach, please get in touch to book a free taster session, outdoors in east London’s Victoria Park or by phone or Skype. Take a look at some of my previous blogs or free resources including Tips for your wellbeing and The benefits of life coaching.