Change – how do you feel about it?Posted by in Benefits of Life Coaching | healing | life coaching outdoors | Life Coaching tips | Reflections
For better and for worse, things are changing all the time.
Change happens consistently and continuously in each and everyone’s life. In fact it’s something we can be 100 per cent sure of. That’s good to know isn’t it?
Perhaps sometimes. When you initiate the change yourself, it can be easy to adopt since it’s a wanted change or when something we don’t like changes, we can experience relief. But when things we enjoy and don’t want to change change, it can be less easy to come to terms with.
Change has been quite a topic for me personally of late: the house I was living in was sold recently; I came to the decision to sell my flat; I’ve decided not to spend Christmas with my family in Germany this year but to go on a mediation retreat instead; I’ve also decided to bring horses back into my life – something I gave up when I was 16 and have missed ever since and I’ve decided to spend more time doing my passion – my work as a life coach – which means I need to make further changes and reduce the hours I work at Friends of the Earth.
It seems that change attracts change. When one thing happens, something else happens and then another thing…. We are often left thinking ‘why does everything have to change all at once?’
The truth, and my own experience is that when we open up to change, allow change into our life, more change can and will happen.
So how can we embrace change?
Embracing change. It’s a lovely image, isn’t it? Putting both our arms around the change that comes into our lives – the good and the bad – to hold it, stay with it, be with it. Just like when we hold a dear friend or a child – we don’t push, pull or struggle, we just hold – in that moment.
For me that’s the secret of becoming more at ease with change – rather than pushing it away or clinging onto something that used to be; we embrace what is.
When we embrace change, we open up to it and as a result we can experience it for what it is, no more, no less. Then we can experience change as a process like the buds on the trees that form, grow and open, and not as an event that hits us all of a sudden. It is really important to take time for changes to fall into place, to allow things to settle slowly…
Embracing change requires us to stop, to look and to experience the things that are happening in our life and to take small steps that allow us to accept and ride the constant wave of changes in life with ease and confidence.
We can best observe continuous change in nature. We were still in the depths of winter in Britain in March. It was becoming hard to imagine the arrival of spring at all. But as sure as change – it did finally arrive and spring slowly unfolded with the buds on the trees forming, growing and finally bursting into leaves.
Change has benefits too
So change has benefits even if we can’t see them at the point when change first enters our world.
Here are three benefits. I will share more over the coming weeks on my facebook page:
Frequent changes make us more resilient and help us adapt more easily to new situations, new environments, and new people. As a result you do not get wobbly when life presents you with some unexpected things.
We never know what each change may bring. When you turn from your usual path there will be plenty of different opportunities waiting for you. Changes will bring new choices that can lead to happiness and fulfillment.
3. New Beginnings
Each change is about closing one chapter and opening another one. Changes bring new beginnings and excitement to life.
Have a great weekend.