We usually talk about picking up bad habits, but here’s a good habit to pick up – regular reflection…
Reflection can be a very empowering process. It can help you to make sense of your day; to come to decisions, to set a course of action; to step away from ‘autopilot’ – your habitual way of doing and thinking.
Preparing a reflection skills tool kit
Reflection requires a number of skills which can easily be developed.
Self-awareness – an ability to pause, to pay attention to thoughts and feelings and to self-question non-judgementally. This will help you to become aware of your habitual ways of thinking and behaving in any given situation).
Non-judgement – it is important to be able to describe / recall situations neutrally
Critical analysis – the ability to challenge your assumptions
Review – an ability to pause and to ask: ‘What would I do differently next time and why? How will I do it and how will that give me the outcome I want’.
New learning – an ability to learn about yourself from experiences (your potential and areas for improvement) rather than seeing yourself or others as a failure.
Reflection top tips
1. Give yourself at least 10-15 minutes for regular reflection – in a place you feel at ease and at a time that suits you best (when your mind is open and alert). I like to reflect whilst walking in Victoria Park or during a weekend hike. Others reflect during a long soak in the bath
2. Switch off all background noise – radio, TV, your phone, to create the best conditions to clarify your intentions and to help you verbalise your thoughts and feelings
3. Capture your reflections in a notebook.
I used these tools to reflect on 2015. It helped me to gain clarity about what worked and what didn’t work so well, my limiting believes and assumptions, my learnings and where to focus next. As we move into February, could this be a good starting point is to reflect on the any intentions you set for the 2016, giving you a chance to track progress and to follow through rather than falling back into old patterns.
These tools for reflection can be applied to anything, big or small – they will add depth to how you live your life, rendering it more satisfying and meaningful as a result.
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